No matter who you are, there’s a good chance that you, or someone you love, would like to feel more confident. So today I want to share four quick tips with you, to help us all feel more confidence right away.
Do me a favor? Please share this with someone you love, who needs these tips too!
We moved a LOT when I was growing up, 16 times by the time I was 16! I attended many different schools and was often the outsider.
I was horribly insecure.
Always the “new” girl, I felt everyone’s eyes on me and was painfully worried about what other people thought of me.
It was easy to identify the “popular” kids, in each new area. They lit up the room, had loads of friends and seemed to own the place. I longed to feel that confident!
They were so sure of themselves and comfortable in their own skin, and this seemed so foreign to me. But I watched them and studied them. I was fascinated, -how did they do it?
Thank heaven, by the time I started High School, I began to figure it out and life improved a lot for me.
But I can certainly relate to those of you who feel that way.
I recently read a book by Jen Sincero. She’s a fantastic writer, and offered some awesome, actionable tips on improving confidence. So I thought it would be fun to share a few with you.
- Let your body fake out your brain. We can trick our brains into thinking more confident thoughts, simply by the way that we hold our bodies. Stand up straight, hold your head high, smile and look other people in the eye. Take deep breaths, walk with a strut and give friendly, firm handshakes and hugs. If we start with our bodies, our minds will follow. Are you slumping? Try it right now!
- Do the hard thing. What would you do if you had no fear of failure? Would you try a new hobby, sing in public, travel alone, write a blog, start a new company or make a new friend? What does your soul long for that you’ve been too afraid to try? Identify one thing, create a goal, and then take one small step each day to move closer to that goal. Make your decision an unbreakable commitment. Each time you take a small step, celebrate the heck out of yourself. You will become someone who honors self promises, and that is the fastest way to build confidence.
- Remember who you are. As a human being, you are literally ONE generation from God. There is nothing we can do to become more worthy of His love, we already have it. 100%. We are far more powerful, more capable, more incredible than we can imagine. Not because of anything we can do, but because of who we are. Give yourself permission to fly. It’s your birthright and your divine, genetic blueprint to do so.
- Serve others. Looking outside of ourselves helps us to stop focusing on our weaknesses. When we ask ourselves the questions, “How can I help? What value can I contribute? Whose day can I make brighter today?” Our brains go to work finding the answers. This helps us to tap into the gifts and talents we’ve been given, and show up in our lives with a lot of love. We gain confidence as we do this, because we tap into our higher being and live into that best version of ourselves.
When we’re being ruled by our insecurities, we tend to shrink and hide.
So being willing to shift our focus to others, brings us out of our shell and into the joy of engaging with life. It also helps us to see that all humans are imperfect.
All of us need a helping hand, a friendly smile, a free pass when we do something stupid… You can be that friend. And as the law of reciprocation dictates, that love will come back to you.
When we moved to our neighborhood in South Jordan 23 years ago, I had learned a thing or two in our travels, so I was ready for the challenge. I really wanted it to be a warm and friendly place to raise our family, and I knew that it was up to me to help create that.
I smiled and waved whenever anyone drove by. We baked cookies and delivered them to our neighbors to introduce ourselves, and get to learn their names. We invited them to dinner and we didn’t wait for others to notice us, we assumed everyone loved us, and they did. (At least I like to think so!)
Being confident blesses not only our own lives, but also the lives of otherswho haven’t quite developed that skill yet. It’s easy to assume that it’s easier for other people, but that’s just not always true.
There are people who need what you have to offer. So let your light shine. Put your shoulders back, keep a spring in your step, and strut your beautiful stuff!
And, if you’d like to learn to be more confident in your relationship, I can help you with that too! I have a few spots open for on one one coaching. Book a free call with me and let’s see if we’re a good fit!