We are on vacation in Southern California this week with a few of our kids and grandbabies. It’s a trip we’ve been so looking forward to since we booked it months ago, and so far we are having a great time! But knowing that our experience is going to be 50% good and 50% bad, helps me keep a good perspective and roll through the bumps with much more calm.
In life, so many of us have the expectation that we should just be happy all of the time. That if we can just choose the right thoughts, things should always be perfect. We should always be madly in love with our spouse, we should always be having fun and feeling amazing. But here’s the truth, in order to experience the full scope of human emotion, life is supposed to be 50/50.
Consider this, if we spent 100% of our lives in positive emotion, everyone would be happy, thin, lottery winners… and we wouldn’t even know we were happy. There would be no contrast. We wouldn’t appreciate the incredible moments of peace and joy because we wouldn’t know frustration or pain. And we want that right? We want to be sad when it’s appropriate. We want to be pushed to grow by experiencing frustration or discomfort.
Understanding this makes the ride so much smoother. When the baby throws up all over the car seat… and the grandpa for that matter LOL!,- when we are sick of being in the car for hours on end, or even sick of each other…we can just laugh and understand that this is the 50% that’s not so fun. And when we feel the bliss of dipping our toes in the ocean and building sandcastles all day long, we can soak it in and appreciate it all the more.
Instead of resisting the negative and expecting things to be perfect, do yourself a favor and embrace it all. The sunburn and the sunset. The love and the irritation. The peace and the chaos. The freshly made bed and the big mess that only toddlers and teens can make. It’s ALL good. It’s all part of experiencing this crazy, wonderful ride called humanity.
Sending you all tons of love and wishing you a beautiful, 50/50 day!