Do you get defensive? One of the worst feelings we can experience is defensiveness. You know that feeling… the one where you are suddenly hot with anger and on guard because someone said something to hurt your feelings? Why does it hurt? Words don’t hurt until we give them meaning, -meaning WE have a thought …
Are you defensive and prickly? Why do we make ourselves tough to love? Read More »
Have you ever said any of the following (maybe even just in your head!)?“He’s/she’s not my soulmate.”“I can’t believe I married this person, what was I thinking??”“Pretty sure I should have married someone more….”No? How about this one, “He’s/she’s the PERFECT one for me!” (then lucky you!) Sadly, I spent way too much time over …
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Trust. What is trust, and what role does it play in our relationships? This is something that has been on my mind and heart this week as I coached a beautiful gal whose husband struggles with a pornography addiction.She asked the question, “How can I possibly trust him now?”Most of us think that trust is something …
When I was fourteen years old, our family was making a move from Arizona to Utah. My dad was driving the big old moving truck and my mom drove our family van, which meant that my brother Eric, who had recently turned 16, needed to drive one of our cars. He and his friend and …
Do You Drive Like You Own the Whole Freeway? Why it’s so Important to Stay in Your Lane Read More »
It’s no mistake that our paths have crossed, and I look forward to sharing many. helpful new tools and concepts with you that have changed my own life in so manyways! Today I want to discuss the importance of a fresh perspective. Perspective is everything, isn’t it? Have you ever wondered why something can be such …
No matter who you are, there’s a good chance that you, or someone you love, would like to feel more confident. So today I want to share four quick tips with you, to help us all feel more confidence right away. Do me a favor? Please share this with someone you love, who needs …
I was recently at the Dentist for my 6 month cleaning (no cavities, yay me!😂). I was chatting with my cute hygienist, (they are always so cute right?) who was telling me about her recent engagement and her up-coming wedding. When the dentist joined us, he said to her, “Hey, you know Jane is a …
What do we do when we want different things? I have the best little tool for you today! Does this ever happen with your honey? You really want to go to a wedding, he really wants to go to a game. What do you do? Perhaps you want to volunteer for an event, but your …
Welcome Baby Girl! This past week has been one for the records in our family. We got to enjoy our darling grandsons for a few days, while our daughter and her husband welcomed our precious new grand-daughter into the world. And then, the day after we returned our babies to be with their parents and …
Never before in the history of my lifetime, have I seen so much disagreement. And friends, we’re not good at it! With the pandemic, the BLM movement, riots, protests, the election and political / religious views, there is so much discord it can be absolutely deafening. Wear masks? Start school? Stand for the flag? Vote for____ …
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Listen less and talk more. No really, I know what you’ve heard. You’ve been told to talk less and listen more, and this is very good advice when we are communicating with other people. But the conversation I am talking about here is the one you are having with yourself! I know you and I know the …
One of the things I heard a lot as a kid was, “Practice makes perfect.” I think this is an idea that people came up with in order to inspire work ethic, to help us produce something great, perhaps even extraordinary. I remember going to a concert of a local artist as a teenager and …
