What Every Good Astronaut Knows, That Can Help Your Marriage

I have to tell you about my weekend, it was just so good.  My husband and I went to dinner with some of our best friends Friday night, and it was just so fun!  There’s nothing like forever friends, the kind that you know and love for years and years and count as family.

There was a small band playing, and the music, company, and conversation were just so rejuvenating to me. People were laughing and enjoying themselves and it felt like normal again. 

When we went to bed that night, I really wanted to pinch myself.  I truly don’t know how I could be any happier. I felt so alive, and so in love life and my guy.  

Man, I want that for you.

So today, I want to share the law of 62 with you.  Not to be confused with “The Rule of 62” that is shared in AA meetings, which is, “Don’t take yourself too seriously.”  

The law of 62 that I’m talking about refers to rockets.

This past week my business coach shared this in our mastermind and I loved it.

He uses a rocket as a totem to remind him of his goals, but not for the reason you are thinking.  It has nothing to do with blasting off, but rather it is his reminder that there are 62 miles between ocean level and outer space.

Only 62 miles.  Isn’t that crazy?  Many of us commute farther than that each day!

It takes 62 miles of incredible effort, to reach that point where it becomes easy.

Think of an astronaut for a moment.  How much courage it must take to board a rocket, strap yourself in, trust that the million things that could go wrong, won’t.  Literally position your body on top of a canister of rocket fuel, and then say, light it up!

Imagine the strain on your physical body.  The shaking, the g-forces, the inertia. The fear they must feel until they break through the ozone layer, into the quiet of outer space.

62 miles.

This analogy is true for any goal we have in life.  If we can try anything 62 times, we will succeed.

Can you forgive your spouse or apologize, 62 times?

Reach out and offer warmth and affection, 62 times?

Ask for help or try something new, 62 times?

Start over, 62 times?

Learn a new skill or think a new thought,  62 times?

You get the point.

If we’ll try 62 times, without tracking which mile we’re at, and keep our eyes on the road ahead, – If we can make it past that 62nd mile, it becomes easy.

The effortlessness you dream of is yours.

I don’t think I really believed that was possible for me and my husband in the beginning, if fact, I’m pretty sure I didn’t.

I thought we were too different, and that I could hope for better, but not for sweet and easy, and certainly not the joyful relationship we have now. 


Because I stayed the course and fought the whole 62 miles, because I asked for help and got the support I needed, what we have now is simply blissful.

The taking off is the hardest part.  The gravity in the beginning is strongest, it takes the most energy and burns the most fuel to create momentum.

This is no different than when you’re trying to create real change in your relationship.

Sure, it can be hard, but we make it harder by adding drama to it.

When we overthink and worry and stress about the process, -we create unnecessary pain.  We get to mile 32 and think it’s not working.

The best astronauts know that that 62 miles will be difficult, but they don’t have any drama about it.  They know the ride is bumpy.  They are expecting it and don’t freak out when they experience discomfort.  

They know it’s just part of the process. 

They hold on tight, keep their eyes on the path ahead and keep on going. At no point do they decide it’s just too hard and call it all off.

The payoff for that effort is experiencing the effortlessness of traveling faster and farther than most other people ever dream of.

They also have a team to support them on their journey, advising, updating, and directing them so their mission will be successful.

What are you willing to do to reach your goals?

If it helps you to remember the rocket, do it!  Find a pic and post it where you can see it often. 

Make your decision, choose your destination, and get on the ride.  The worst thing that can happen will be that you will feel some negative emotion.  

No problem, you were built for that.

Be willing to feel it 62 times.

And if you don’t have a team to help you, I’d love to support you on your journey.